Life… Life issues… Be who you are

Life… Life issues… Be who you are

It’s hard to accept that sometimes we are what causes pain to the people we care about. That through our actions, even if unintentional, we became the source of their dimming light. We made them not only question us and others around them, but themselves. This person who once greeted you with a smile, now hides their face. The laugh you loved so much is being suppressed by suffocating thoughts.

The eyes you loved to look in are afraid to stare back because they know in one look, they’ll temporarily forget their world is falling apart, and that you, the one thing they hoped wouldn’t break it, is exactly what ignited the fall. We see this, and we fail to take responsibility for our part in what they feel. Rather, it’s easy to tell them they’re the problem and to get over it. We get mean, we get distant, we get tired. Easy was breaking something worth having. Hard is fixing it. Anything worth keeping doesn’t come easy.


Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets.Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don’t. And believe that everything happens for a reason.

If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, just that it would be worth it.No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself. Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not. So stay close with the people who blessed ur life like a glowstick.

Life is something that requires a considerable amount of physical and mental effort. Some are fortunate enough to have everything prepared for them.  Such as some are born into money; some come across good fortune yet most work hard from the start to get somewhere in the world. It just all depends on how you were brought into this world. For some people, life is full of stress and hardships. Life is something that requires a considerable amount of physical and mental effort.

Some are fortunate enough to have everything prepared for them.  Such as some are born into money; some come across good fortune yet most work hard from the start to get somewhere in the world. It just all depends on how you were brought into this world. For some people, life is full of stress and hardships. Life is something that requires a considerable amount of physical and mental effort. Some are fortunate enough to have everything prepared for them.  Such as some are born into money; some come across good fortune yet most work hard from the start to get somewhere in the world. It just all depends on how you were brought into this world.


Is your life a struggle? Have you been conditioned to believe that life is a struggle? If you think it is, then this is what will unfold and if you don’t, it won’t. But is it that simple? I believe that your life is the sum total of your thoughts and beliefs about life. If you were taught that life will be a struggle, every experience you have will be framed within this thinking. Instead of being open-minded about what life throws at you, you will automatically be expecting bad things to happen. Of course bad things do happen but we can pre-empt negative occurrences, expecting them to occur-this is called a self fulfilling prophecy.

Machiavelli is the philosopher of choice for people who struggle. Typical sayings such as “it’s a dog eat dog world” or “you get nothing for nothing” suggests an attitude of negativity. many people do not realize how much their thinking affects the quality of their life. I’m not saying that life is always easy-life is a challenge. When we struggle against the natural rhythms of life, we create resistance and opposition and this is what leads to struggle.


As we Know with struggle there is no joy and rarely any reward. In fact, for some people struggle is the reward. They are a little lost without it. There is comfort in what you know. They struggle through life sacrificing their own needs and falling to bed exhausted every night. They justify this joyless existence by saying things like, “that’s life”. I have had clients who are incredibly successful but at the same time thoroughly miserable. They loathe what they do and what they have become. Often this is what they expected. “This is just how life is. You have to get on with it”.


If you believe that life is meant to be a struggle ask yourself how this belief helps you. Does it make you happier? I doubt it. If you create unnecessary struggle and stress for yourself you are in the majority. You may be responding negatively to life without even realizing it. Forcing yourself to be a certain way because “that’s just how life is”, will never promote happiness. Look for beauty everywhere. It could be the sound of birds singing or the sun shining. Treat yourself often. Plan a day every now and then you get to do nothing or do what you love doing. Laugh more. See the funny side of life, and that will surely bring you relief for sure.

Authored by,

Maheli Mehara De Silva.

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